For some, the holiday season can be a time of joy, connection, and celebration, but for others, it can bring feelings of stress, overwhelm, and even sadness. Whether it’s navigating family dynamics, managing a packed schedule, grieving a loved one no longer around, or coping with feelings of loneliness, this time of year can challenge your mental health. But there’s good news: taking care of yourself during the holidays doesn’t have to be complicated. With a few intentional tools in your self-care toolkit, you can prioritize your well-being and make the season more manageable—and meaningful.
1. The Compass: Set Realistic Expectations
The holidays are often painted as a picture-perfect time, but real life is rarely so ideal. In fact, what’s more common are bumps and hurdles that inevitably show up—like catching a cold, canceled plans, or minor conflicts that zap your energy. It’s okay if things don’t go as planned—in fact, that’s normal. Your compass helps you focus on what matters most and let go of unrealistic expectations.
Practical Tip: Make a short list of your main holiday priorities—whether it’s spending time with loved ones, taking a break from work, or simply relaxing. Use this list to guide your decisions and say no to things that don’t align.
2. The Boundary Shield: Protect Your Energy
The holidays often come with increased social gatherings where you feel obligated to attend because of “traditions” or “good ol’ times.” While connecting with others can be fulfilling, the type of connection matters. The boundary shield helps you ask yourself, "Am I attending because I want to or because I feel like I have to?" It can feel hard when you're used to saying YES, but it's also essential to set boundaries if you feel that the gathering evokes more anxiety than a time where meaningful connections are fostered.
Practical Tip: Before attending a gathering, decide how long you’d like to stay and plan an exit strategy if you feel overwhelmed. Use phrases like, “I’ll need to leave by [time], but I’m so glad I could join for a bit!”
3. The Routine Anchor: Prioritize Rest and Routine
It’s easy to let routines slip during the holiday season. Sometimes it feels like we have an excuse to stay up all night indulging in that tub of ice cream or bag of chips—and then doing it on repeat (I’ve been there). The routine anchor reminds you to maintain habits that support your well-being, like regular sleep, healthy meals, and movement. Your mind & body will thank you in the new year!
Practical Tip: Stick to a consistent sleep schedule, and find small ways to move your body daily—even a short walk can help reduce stress.
4. The Resource Map: Budget Your Finances
Overspending—whether it’s money or energy—can leave you feeling depleted. The resource map encourages you to be mindful of your resources and discern between what you need versus what you want. This simple tool helps you reduce unnecessary stress during a season filled with sales signs and tempting ads.
Practical Tip: Set a budget for gifts, events, and travel. Remember, meaningful gestures don’t have to be expensive. Handmade cards, thoughtful notes, or shared experiences often mean more than costly presents.
5. The Emotional Compass: Allow Space for Your Feelings
The holiday season can stir up a mix of emotions, from joy to grief. It’s normal to feel a range of feelings, especially if you’re missing loved ones, dealing with change, or facing personal challenges. Your emotional compass reminds you it’s okay to feel a range of things—it’s part of being human. Multiple emotions can coexist, and creating space for them can be healing.
Practical Tip: Set aside time to reflect or journal about your feelings. If loneliness arises, consider reaching out to a friend, joining a community event, or volunteering to connect with others in meaningful ways.
6. The Joy Magnifier: Create Moments of Joy
Amid the busyness, don’t forget to magnify the small things that bring you joy. Whether it’s taking a bath, watching your favorite movie, or cuddling with your pet, these small, intentional moments can make the season feel special.
Practical Tip: At the start of your day, think of one small thing you can do to add a bit of joy or a smile to your face.
7. The Lifeline: Seek Support if You Need It
Sometimes, the holiday season amplifies existing stressors. Reaching out for help is a sign of strength, not weakness. The lifeline ensures you’re not navigating challenges alone.
Practical Tip: Talk to a trusted friend, therapist, or support group. If immediate support feels overwhelming, start with small steps like reading resources online or calling a mental health hotline.
Taking care of yourself during the holidays is one of the best gifts you can give yourself. By using the tools in your self-care toolkit—setting boundaries, staying grounded, and focusing on what truly matters—you can create a season that’s both meaningful and manageable.
As you reflect on these tools, ask yourself: Which one feels most relevant for me right now? What’s one small step I can take today to prioritize my well-being? Remember, there’s no “right” way to do the holidays—only the way that works best for you.
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